Here are 7 Clever Ways to Make Your Family Simcha Special:

people dancing during a Jewish Wedding

How do you make your simcha meaningful and fun at the same time? We have seen many families try so hard to customize their bar mitzvah, bat mitzvah, or wedding that the ‘simcha’ can get lost in the shuffle. Here are seven ideas to think about when planning your family communal experience. Of course, there are many more ideas than these… Enjoy! Maybe you’ll adopt some of these (and send us some of your own).

  1. Invite 2nd tier friends.
    Don’t skimp when it comes to inviting peripheral friends. In the long run, the added cost is well worth the friendships strengthened by your gesture.
  2. Personalize your event.
    There’s nothing like the family pictures that welcome guests at the door. But, go one step further. Make a bencher with family photos built in. You can create a simple card bencher with only 4-6 photos and a customized cover or go all the way with a booklet bencher that is a memorable keepsake album of your family simcha. Lets Bench! can help with all of that.
  3. Make a short and sweet video.
    Guests love the presentation but it doesn’t need to be more than 5 minutes.
  4. Write a song (to the tune of your favorite folk song, etc.).
    Be sure to include lots of funny ‘roasting’ elements that are well known. Practice singing it ahead of time.
  5. Perform a dance.
    Learn and teach a bunch of family/friends an easy dance to perform for the bride and groom or bar mitzvah / bat mitzvah star. Remember to practice ahead of time but, also don’t worry if it’s not perfect. The thought is what counts and people really like it.
  6. Designate a close family member or friend to help run the show.
    Ask a family member or close friend who is organized and great under pressure to help answer questions and deal with any crisis so you are able to focus on all the fun and not on putting out fires.
  7. Stay calm.
    Breath. Remember it’s a simcha. And despite all the crazy preparations, the simcha – literally ‘happiness’ is what really matters.
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Daniel Laufer